Just Lifestyle

Sex has Taken A Back Seat - I know it is only the second thing after compatibility that keeps a couple happy together. But definitely sex is important for both the partners. Our sexual life is almost at stake as she never seem to be interested in it. We almost sleep apart and my wife does nothing to seduce me. I have always been co-operative and soft about sex. But still wonder what has made her say no to sex?

Lack of Excitement - One of the husbands believed that it is not his behavior, but more of his wife's behave that has changed after marriage. She seems to be too cool sans any excitement. Earlier she was a power woman always ready to greet you and new challenges with a smile. Now she seemed to be so boring. Where has the excitement gone?

She is Always Shabbily Dressed - Her beauty and dressing sense was what I lost my heart on at the first instance. Look at her now, she is always in her old night gown and her hair is always untidy. I gift her the best of dresses every now and then, but they are all piled up in her cupboard. Doesn't she know men love pretty women and she was one. I love her still but her attire and looks doesn't make my heart pound.

Television Soap Operas Are All That She Talks About - Intelligence was her virtue and pre-marriage she almost left me fumbling for words in any kind of debate & discussions. I loved talking to her on anything under the sun. What is left for now is just mere stupid daily soaps. She watches them day and night and if she talks she discusses them with me. God, save me.

No Time For Me - Wonder, what has made her so different. She has become one of those women who gossip whole day in neighbourhood or on phone. If she is left with anytime apart from back fence talking, her household chores keeps her busy. In just a few months of marriage, she does not find any time to spend it with me.

I Too Need Space - People, I was and I am still an individual . Why does she blame that I spent time out with friends. I never asked her to seclude herself and not meet her friends. I need some space where I can hang out with friends. I love to spend some time with my old friends and I guess there is nothing wrong with that. My wife needs to understand that.

She burst into tears to say - "You are no more the same man I married." I heard Mr. Federer sharing his personal problem to his friend. He went on to say that his wife is almost prepared to give him divorce and he was unable to discover what is wrong with him. Mr. Federer said, "I am still the same, what has changed? I love her so much, I work so hard to give her and our kids all the comfort of life."

Well, this scenario has become common amongst couples worldwide. No one knows much about it as why and when it happens or happened. Women are blindfolded in love and as a matter of fact even men are. But as the time passes post marriage, things change and so does your relation with each other. Over emotional by nature, women are most affected with their spouse's behavior.

When in love in early days of dating, every woman feels that her man is the just the perfect choice for her. But few years or at times few months after marriage, she sees a new face of the same man whom she thought she knew very well. There is a sudden change in husband's behavior, likes and dislikes. It seems that she has now faced the reality and ends up on - He is not the man I Married. What made her say that? Question is provocative but what are the answers? Read on to find out what complains women often make post marriage. What is it that she thinks has changed? Here are few common & uncommon clamors and complaints of wives to their husbands.


He Listened Patiently To Me Earlier, Now He Just Walks Out of the Room - He was different when we dated together. He made sure he heard to my each and every word seriously. What has gone wrong now, he doesn't want to listen to even the most important matters. He just walks away from the room.

I was the First Person Whom He Said Good Morning To, Now he hardly Says that Ever - Before we tied knots he called me every morning to say Good morning while he was still on bed. I do not remember him waking up without wishing me good morning. At times he kept sleeping till the evening as my mobile phone was out of network and he could not wish me good morning. That was one of his way special ways of expressing love to me. Forget about good morning, now, he doesn't even bother to say 'bye' while leaving home for job.

Was a Mad Lover, Always Wanting to Spend Time With me. Now He is Hardly Around Me - I never knew it would happen and that too so early. He is always out of home for work or with friends partying all night.

He Never Missed a Chance to Be Close to Me When We Were Seeing Each Other. NOW? - Its almost depressing to admit that he has changed so much. No Hugs, No Kisses, He Seemed to have lost interest in Me.

He was My Chocolate Man, Wonder What Went Wrong - I am completely in love with chocolates. That was how he impressed me. He brought chocolates for me every day in different packings. Honestly it was this attribute for which I lost my heart on him. We have been married for an year now and its almost 11 months that he even brought one for me. My Chocolate Man has melted.

Hmmm.. with so many complaints and moreover dissatisfaction amongst the wives, remaining the same guy as ever seem to be almost mandatory. But why do the husbands change post-marriage? What do the men have to say about this? Stay tuned to find out the reasons for their behaviour.

This group of women were almost close friends, I guess, as they shared their personal tit-bits frankly to one another. The serious matter was being discussed in a lighter mood and that kept me glued to the conversation till the end. Though I know it is a bad habit to overhear, but curiosity did not kill the cat. These ladies were just sharing reasons why they preferred to sleep away from their husband....Here are top 10 reasons that these women had for sleeping apart from husband. I would narrate it in almost the same way that each one them did.

He Stinks - Gosh, I could hardly stand next to him, forget about sleeping every night with him. His bad body odour would make me unconscious rather than getting good sleep. The worst part is that if that happens, my man wouldn't even realize. I need to shower him with deodorant when we sleep together.


Husband Farts - Its awful and disgusting sleeping next to him as he farts every half an hour. Its always loud and smelly. I tolerated it for 8 years, but chose to sleep in the other room after my doctor alarmed me that I was being insomniac.

Always In The Mood - Another women spoke shyly and then burst into laughter saying - My hubby is almost addicted to me and wants to have sex almost everyday. He is always charged up and feels like making love every night I am close to him. That makes me tired and at times restless too, therefore I have a small bed in the same room and sleep.

He Grips Me Hard That I Am Almost Out of Breath - One of the ladies said she found it difficult to sleep properly as her husband holds her tightly in his arms and sleeps every night. She went on to say that she often had cramps in her muscles when she slept with him. That why both of them do not sleep cuddled together every night and stick to our respective corners of the bed.

His Snores Almost Tear Down My Eardrums - My husband has this bad habit of snoring that makes me run for cotton balls at the middle of the night. Worst of all, he is not a regular snorer, but it happens all of a sudden loudly in the middle of the night and lasts for hours. That's why I prefer sleeping apart from him.


Bad Breath - Every woman had her own saga and so was with this one. She said that having very sensitive smelling ability, she found it hard to sleep with her husband who has bad breath. Other women teased and chukled her asking how did she kiss him then?

Tired of His Sleep Talking - Right in the middle of the night, he suddenly starts to speak. Nothing scares me more than that in my early days of my marriage. Now I am almost used to it except the fact that I can not have a sound sleep. My husband's sleep talking is a serious concern and makes me go mad every night if I sleep on the same bed.

Kicking - One of the women said that her husband hasn't grown up till now. She was referring to his kicking habits while sleeping. Her husband has this bad habit of kicking and throwing his legs hard. In such situations, he often hurts his wife. That is why its mutually accepted by both of them to sleep on different beds.

Talks A Lot - The last reason that I heard was a little surprising as it is more common to women than to men. She was heard saying that her husband gets up in the middle of the night at least four or five times to remind her of things to be done the next day or to tell her any incident. She said she is tired of his talks and at times teases her husband calling him the 'lady in the family'.

These reasons for a couple are serious, but sitting in the park listening to these gossip surely brought smile on face.

Your way of sleeping with someone unclothes the kind of relationship you share. You might be sharing a bed, but what about the intimacy of your relationship. Since sleeping is a posture when you are most relaxed, it is almost obvious that you will be in most natural way. And that is the time when you can have the most casual behaviour with your spouse or partner. Though, there might be exceptions that might be due to strange upbringing, health problems, etc. Just a sneak peak at some of the sleeping positions of couples in their bedrooms....


Locking Each Other = Love, Peace, Relaxation -> Its like stating the obvious. A couple that sleeps while embracing each other is definitely madly in love. For some it might be a fresh relation and for others it can be a well-knitted bonding.

Both Lying Straight Under the Same Sheet = Settled, Relaxed and Equal Rights -> This type of sleeping posture depicts that both the partners are happily settled and love to share everything with each other.

Spoon Position = Security, Deeply in Love -> When you sleep behind your partner, hugging and embracing him/her, this position reveals the closeness between the partners. Such a relation is mature and depicts understanding amongst the two. It also shows dominance of one partner on other and at the same time care and sense of security also.

The Royal Position = Dependency, Commitment, Trust and Strong Male Ego -> Its quite common position amongst the couples. When the women lies with her head on the man's shoulder who is lying straight on his back with face up, this is a royal position of sleeping. Such a posture of sleeping clearly and unspokenly states the dependence of female on her male counterpart. Trust as well as long-term commitment are the cornerstone of such a relation, while strong male ego is apparent.

Zen Style of Sleeping (Back to Back) = Established relation, Independence Gelled with Trust on One Another -> While in a Zen style of sleeping, both the partners sleep back to back. What keeps them close to each other is their butts. Couples that sleep in Zen style with touching buttocks illustrate interdependence, sensuous bonding along with being less exploratory. Many couples adopt this kind of sleeping position after couple of years of their marriage.

Drifting Away = Desperately Independent, Tension, Almost Dead Relationship, Rejection/ Dissatisfaction -> If both the partners remain miles apart from each other and stick to their respective coners of the bed, the situation is almost alarming. Its a clear indication for the couple to start afresh while in bed and try to come in close proximity.

Though for a happy couple sleeping while being physically close to one another is not a compulsion. Very often sexual aspects take a back seat in an honest & lively bonding. But, it is not the same case always for everyone.

I know I am outdated. Atleast when it is concerned with developments and changes in the Online industry. Though the concept of blogging began long back, I have taken it up today..Lets see how long can I go with. I might sound negative, but this is how all humans are. Eveybody thinks of pros & cons and analysizes oneself before starting fresh on something. Thats what I am also doing. Nways, Here I am about to begin this blog to vent out my feelings about all that happens around me.

Cheers!!